Why do you suppose it is that some people have the inability to apologise?
Is it because they genuinely believe that no matter the situation, they are always right? Do they think that just because they have some warped perception of themselves that they are never accountable?
I ask because throughout my life there have been times when I would rather have eaten my own vomit than apologise to someone but as much as the prospect of eating vomit might interest some people, there is always, always, some little voice in the back of my head, telling me to say sorry and most of the time, I do. My little Jimeny Cricket is always present in any situation and if I am wrong, most of the time, I will apologise for it.
I just don't understand how some people will NOT apologise at any expense. Do they believe that they don't have to? And if they believe this, then why the hell not? Why don't you have to apologise? What the hell makes you so damn close to perfection that if by some unlikely chance, you have done something wrong, then the responsibility of the apology certainly shouldn't rest with you??? What makes you so certain?
The reason for my ranting today is simply due to certain members of my family that seem to think that due to the unfortunate fact that I am younger than them, I am responsible for the apology, even if I haven't done anything wrong.. Mr gran, bless her heart - she means well, is always saying to me "Just apologise and smooth things over" BUGGER THAT!
My aunt, bless her heart - I don't think she means well, always says to me, I am older than you and you can apologise to me. BUGGER THAT!!! I have an enormous problem with her logic! There is +- 20 years difference between us, so for the rest of my life, no matter what the situation, she is ALWAYS going to be older than me.. Even when I am someones mother, she will still be older than me but does that mean for the rest of my life, I am always going to be the one to apologise? Do I always have to tuck my tail between my legs, swallow my beliefs and apologise due to the fact that she has 20 years on me? How does she rationalise this stupid stupid "explanation" in her head????
What she tries to tell me, ad nausium, is that because I am younger than her, I need to shut up, accept anything she throws at me and apologise when there is an argument. And she bases this theory on that fact that she believes that she is 1. As damn near close to perfect as someone can be; and 2. that she is older than me so it is my "responsibility" to apologise! WHAT A CROCK!!!
Why is it that for some people "Sorry seems to be the hardest word" ?
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Sunday, February 7, 2010
Ummm, no, not so much...
Okay, so, last night before I went to sleep, I had decided, that today, I was going to write down some really mushy, gushy stuff about being grateful for the friends and family that I have in my life... (yeah, that would be your queue to throw up). I think this sudden rush of blood to the head was brought on due to a combination of the fact that my little sister turned 18 on Friday, that we had an entire weekend of friends and family and then I sat up till very late last night with a friend talking about the complexities of her love life...or current lack thereof...
But then, after having very little sleep and eventually waking up to the deafening sound of my alarm , the thought crossed my mind - Was I feeling all that grateful? - Ummm, no, not so much...
Truth be told, I have a lot that I can be grateful for but isn't it sometimes that much more fulfilling to have a good rant about all the things you aren't actually grateful for???
For example, on this particular Monday, after having very little sleep, I find myself in my office, battling to choke down my breakfast due to the fact that I am currently contemplating the murder of a colleague... If I have to hear the words "Are you hungry for Jesus" ONE MORE TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Seriously, I have nothing against religion or anyone who is a believer in anything... I do however, have an incredible problem with being subjected to gospel music first thing in the morning, every working morning, between the hours of 8 and 9 in the morning. I feel that it is just plain and simply unnecessary! I don't sit here, blasting music about how I am "hungry for Satan" (Not that I am even remotely Satanic) but the point is the same : HAVE A LITTLE CONSIDERATION FOR OTHER PEOPLE DAMMIT!! I mean, seriously?? What if I was a raging Satanist and the type to take serious offence to the melodies of "are you hungry for Jesus"??? What then?
It's bad enough having to be awake and be at work, on a MONDAY no less; and share an office with people who, for whatever reason, even in the blistering Joburg heat, never seem to feel that heat, having the daily struggle with them over the air con, I now have to throw into the mix, that I actually don't like their choice in music... Do I honestly have the energy for this?! And even if I did, on this particular Monday, have the energy to say something about it, I am almost 1000% certain that the reaction is going to be "oh, really, that is so strange. Don't you follow the word of our Lord?" Ummm, no, not so much! But the fact remains, even if I did find myself with an insatiable "hunger for Jesus", I certainly would be considerate enough keep the harmonising melodies of it all, TO MYSELF!
If you ask me, there are plenty of thing to be grateful for...annoying, self indulgent colleagues with damaged temperature regulators,UMMM, NO, NOT SO MUCH!
But then, after having very little sleep and eventually waking up to the deafening sound of my alarm , the thought crossed my mind - Was I feeling all that grateful? - Ummm, no, not so much...
Truth be told, I have a lot that I can be grateful for but isn't it sometimes that much more fulfilling to have a good rant about all the things you aren't actually grateful for???
For example, on this particular Monday, after having very little sleep, I find myself in my office, battling to choke down my breakfast due to the fact that I am currently contemplating the murder of a colleague... If I have to hear the words "Are you hungry for Jesus" ONE MORE TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Seriously, I have nothing against religion or anyone who is a believer in anything... I do however, have an incredible problem with being subjected to gospel music first thing in the morning, every working morning, between the hours of 8 and 9 in the morning. I feel that it is just plain and simply unnecessary! I don't sit here, blasting music about how I am "hungry for Satan" (Not that I am even remotely Satanic) but the point is the same : HAVE A LITTLE CONSIDERATION FOR OTHER PEOPLE DAMMIT!! I mean, seriously?? What if I was a raging Satanist and the type to take serious offence to the melodies of "are you hungry for Jesus"??? What then?
It's bad enough having to be awake and be at work, on a MONDAY no less; and share an office with people who, for whatever reason, even in the blistering Joburg heat, never seem to feel that heat, having the daily struggle with them over the air con, I now have to throw into the mix, that I actually don't like their choice in music... Do I honestly have the energy for this?! And even if I did, on this particular Monday, have the energy to say something about it, I am almost 1000% certain that the reaction is going to be "oh, really, that is so strange. Don't you follow the word of our Lord?" Ummm, no, not so much! But the fact remains, even if I did find myself with an insatiable "hunger for Jesus", I certainly would be considerate enough keep the harmonising melodies of it all, TO MYSELF!
If you ask me, there are plenty of thing to be grateful for...annoying, self indulgent colleagues with damaged temperature regulators,UMMM, NO, NOT SO MUCH!
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