Why do you suppose it is that some people have the inability to apologise?
Is it because they genuinely believe that no matter the situation, they are always right? Do they think that just because they have some warped perception of themselves that they are never accountable?
I ask because throughout my life there have been times when I would rather have eaten my own vomit than apologise to someone but as much as the prospect of eating vomit might interest some people, there is always, always, some little voice in the back of my head, telling me to say sorry and most of the time, I do. My little Jimeny Cricket is always present in any situation and if I am wrong, most of the time, I will apologise for it.
I just don't understand how some people will NOT apologise at any expense. Do they believe that they don't have to? And if they believe this, then why the hell not? Why don't you have to apologise? What the hell makes you so damn close to perfection that if by some unlikely chance, you have done something wrong, then the responsibility of the apology certainly shouldn't rest with you??? What makes you so certain?
The reason for my ranting today is simply due to certain members of my family that seem to think that due to the unfortunate fact that I am younger than them, I am responsible for the apology, even if I haven't done anything wrong.. Mr gran, bless her heart - she means well, is always saying to me "Just apologise and smooth things over" BUGGER THAT!
My aunt, bless her heart - I don't think she means well, always says to me, I am older than you and you can apologise to me. BUGGER THAT!!! I have an enormous problem with her logic! There is +- 20 years difference between us, so for the rest of my life, no matter what the situation, she is ALWAYS going to be older than me.. Even when I am someones mother, she will still be older than me but does that mean for the rest of my life, I am always going to be the one to apologise? Do I always have to tuck my tail between my legs, swallow my beliefs and apologise due to the fact that she has 20 years on me? How does she rationalise this stupid stupid "explanation" in her head????
What she tries to tell me, ad nausium, is that because I am younger than her, I need to shut up, accept anything she throws at me and apologise when there is an argument. And she bases this theory on that fact that she believes that she is 1. As damn near close to perfect as someone can be; and 2. that she is older than me so it is my "responsibility" to apologise! WHAT A CROCK!!!
Why is it that for some people "Sorry seems to be the hardest word" ?
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you would think that, with their 'limitless' knowledge and experience, they would have the wisdom to know when they are wrong, and find the glory in learning a lesson. I might even go so far as to say that if, with over twenty years more experience than you, she has not gained an ounce of humility i wouldn't be taking any advice on responsibility or life in general from her. in fact, i think that would be hazardous to you being the wonderful individual you are. So, to conclude: whatever she says... take it with salt and some tequila. Then, with 'all due' respect and sincerity....forget every word of it. YAY!
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